Sex With Strangers

 

Sex with strangers is a taboo, one of the milder ones. It’s a not-uncommon fetish. It’s a profession. For some people, it’s a symptom of the corruption of traditional values; for others, it’s just something you do on spring break. Nearly any way you look at it, there’s the implication that for people who have sex with strangers it’s because they lead lonely and broken lives. They’ve failed, somehow, to know the people they have sex with. That may be nearly true. It’s probably true that most sex workers, for example, didn’t arrive at their position by skipping down a path strewn with daisies. There are the confirmed lonelyhearts of the world, the people who find sustained relationships impossible for whatever reason. Too busy, too ugly, too traumatized or too antisocial, they’ve just given up on partnership and domesticity. There are the fetishists, whose fetish exists outside of how functional or not they might be in other areas of their life, and then there are people who simply get a thrill from the breaking of a mild taboo. Then there are those who think they are being brave new girls, feminist trailblazers lifting the stigma of promiscuity one drunk stranger at a time, carving a new society by their rejection of good girl standards, claiming their place alongside men in the arena of meaningless fucking. Until they realize that their behavior has calcified into fetish, they’re too old to learn relationship skills, all of their peers have disappeared behind their white picket fences, and all they’ve done is repaint the old taboos a different color. They find that they’ve become the nighthawk at the diner.

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San Simeon

Bryan Ferry evokes a touch of Old Hollywood with a tribute to the home of William Randolph Hearst. It sounds both sexy and slightly haunted. With the ghosts of movie stars past, of course, and the energy of the god-knows-what that went on at Hearst Castle before it became a museum.  Extravagant luxury makes a great cover for filthy proclivities, and lest we forget, that’s been what makes Hollywood what it is since the days when people like William Hearst helped invent the concept of Hollywood. That’s a great fit for Ferry, who took a lot of inspiration from Hollywood sophisticates and their louche ways. In glamour lies danger.

The Rafters

A powerful singer can get a lot of emotional impact just from passionate humming. Moby is not that singer, but he knows where to find them. Finding great samples and bringing in great guests is how he made himself an unlikely household name. His albums are usually filed under uninspiring titles like ‘downtempo’ and ‘chillwave’ and the all-encompassing ‘electronica’. That doesn’t really do justice to the scope of an album like 18. Those 18 songs carry more depth of emotion than most of the earnest balladeers and wanna-be emo kids out there.

The Pleasure Song

One day I’m going to be a sexy older dame, and I only hope to be half as sensual and edgy as dame Marianne Faithfull. There have been many, many songs sung about being old and weary, if anybody can claim to have seen too much, it’s Faithfull. She owns the persona of the rueful old street singer. The other side of that persona is the unrepentant sensualist who savors her experience and can’t wait to live more. Which is incredibly inspiring, for anyone who doesn’t aspire to curl up and die once they’ve passed their golden child years. Life is still full of adventure, even if you’ve outlived your usefulness as an ingenue. There’s the promise of late life romance, free of the shame and stupidity of youth. There’s the satisfaction of wisdom well earned, the pride of self sufficiency, the relief of leaving the young woman’s pedestal behind forever. Once you’ve lived it all and seen it all, the world is your oyster.

PDA

“If I like them because they remind me of eating bad bathtub mescaline in the woods and listening to Cure singles, well, that’ll do. You might like them for completely different reasons.” – Scott Seward, The Village Voice 

Sounds about right. No, I don’t have that experience and that’s not the reason I like Interpol, but it’s a good point. Is there really anything wrong with liking things because they remind us of other things? That’s a tricky line, because nobody likes things that are derivative. You really have to be as good as your influences to pull off a good homage. Interpol, though, they get those backhanded write-ups a lot, because they’re so masterful at evoking things beyond their own time and place. It’s the sense of menace in their music, their disaffected tone, the cool-guy ennui; those things may remind some people of their own disaffected days, and if, for a certain generation, that always seems to evoke the ghost of Ian Curtis, so be it.

One Way Love

This sounds like classic Bryan Ferry, straight from the 70’s. But, nope, this one only dates back to 2002. So, clearly, the old glamour god can still bust out of his rut when he feels like it. I think you know what I mean when I talk about a regulation issue Bryan Ferry album, and this isn’t one of them. I love regulation Ferry, of course, because of course, but I love it more when he gets weird and reminds us of just how edgy cool he used to be. Not grand old man cool like today, but genuinely subversive cool, cool beyond category cool.

One of These Mornings

Moby’s 18 is one of my absolute favorite albums from the 2000’s. In fact, it was one of the first new albums of the 2000’s that I really fell in love with. Before that I was still resolutely convinced that new music was dead and nothing would ever be good again. In hindsight that’s kind of a dumb thing to have believed, but the 90’s didn’t leave me with very much faith in humanity. 18 was one of the records that gave me permission, so to speak, to leave the graveyard of dead rock stars. Now, of course, it’s old history too. As I’ve mentioned pretty recently, it shocks me that we’ve already cycled around to harboring nostalgia for the early 2000’s. Maybe because it’s just a thing that happens to you when you’re over 30, but I’m kinda feeling it a little. I mean, how can you not mist up a little, looking back at a time when ‘cyber-‘ still meant edgy? And – getting somewhat back on point – there’s a bit of irony in the image of Moby  being a big man on the super edgy digital cyber scene of tomorrow or whatever, when all he really wanted to do was bring back gospel music. I’m told that Moby is now into composing ambient music for yoga salons or something, which either makes him the new Brian Eno or the ultimate sad aging hipster.